Romans 12:17-21
“Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the
sight of all. If possible, so far as it
depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but
leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will
repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if
he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap
burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with
good.”
Paul’s first words
here in verse 17 reveal the direction Paul is going to take us. Paul says “Repay no one evil for evil, but
give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.” When wronged Paul says act in mercy. Rather than demanding your rights, rather
than giving what is deserved act in mercy.
Paul knows human
nature. He understands that our
immediate human response when someone commits an evil act against us is to
repay them in like manner, “Repay no one evil for evil.” Revenge is a part of our sinful human nature.
It is our nature as sinful men and women to look out for # 1. Self is the rule by which the natural man
measures what is right and what is wrong.
If it hurts me it must be wrong and if it feels good to me it must be
right. Therefore if you do me wrong I
must right the wrong by inflicting wrong upon you then we’re even. My pride is satisfied so I can move on. That is how sinful man reacts when he is
wronged.
Paul says this is
not how children of God are to act. We
are different! Self and pride are no
longer the determining factors by which we judge right and wrong. Through God’s mercy we have been set free
from self and pride and we are being conformed to the image of His Son Jesus Christ. We are new creatures. This process as we have seen in our study
here in Romans is known as sanctification.
Sanctification is the process by which God sets the believer apart from
sin and makes him more and more like Christ so that day by day our lives are a
growing reflection of the Savior. We
begin to see the world as Christ sees the world, we begin to think and act like
Christ as we put on the mind of Christ.
This means that we
are to we deal with our enemies the same way Christ dealt with His
enemies. He is our example. So how did Christ deal with His enemies? Notice Romans 5:6-10 “For while we were still
weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die
for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to
die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ
died for us. Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much
more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. For if while we were enemies
we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are
reconciled, shall we be saved by his life.”
What did Christ do for us, His enemies?
Did He give them what they deserved?
No. He died for them. He acted in love and mercy. We too are to act in love and mercy not
returning evil for evil but instead as Paul says we must “but give thought to
do what is honorable in the sight of all.”
Paul says “give
thought” meaning do not act on impulse.
When someone wrongs us, the flesh immediate rises up and with it comes
the desire to get even. Don’t be
impulsive, following the flesh, but “give thought” the word literally means “to
think beforehand or to give consideration.”
In this context it means to think before you respond. This is the characteristic of the renewed
mind. It gives careful thought to what
is good and right. Before it acts it
evaluates its actions in light of God’s Word.
An impulsive person
is a person that has his/her mind set on the flesh whose goal is self gratification
which as we have seen is not in keeping with the life that is being transformed
by the renewing of the mind. Paul says that the flesh reacts impulsively but
the transformed person responds by doing “…what is honorable in the sight of
all."
The word honorable
here is the word “kalos” which encapsulates the ideas of goodness, truth,
beauty. It is what most men consider
good and right, even those who are not believers. Our conduct, including our response to our
enemies, is to be characterized as good.
Others may not agree with our response, they may urge us to get even or
fight back, but they will not be able to deny that our conduct was good, true,
and right. Most people, unbelievers
included, would agree that it is wrong to pay back evil with evil. In fact we have a saying for this; two wrongs
don’t make a right! When the believer
responds to evil with evil he acts against the very character of the God he
claims to serve and this does not escape the attention of the world. Even the world understands that this is not
the proper response.
Paul’s words make it
clear that we must always assume the world is watching. It is interesting that even the most ardent
God-denier seems to understand that there is a standard of right behavior. He may not hold himself to that standard but
if you call yourself a Christian you can be sure he will hold you to it. Therefore we must “give thought to do what is
honorable in the sight of all.”
In verse 18 Paul
continues this thought when he says “If possible, so far as it depends on you,
live peaceably with all.” Followers of
Jesus Christ we must be willing to go to great lengths to keep the peace and
avoid conflict. We must be at peace with
all men.
Now this is quite a
tall order for sinners living in a fallen world with other sinners. In reality however, we spend a great deal of
our time as humans keeping the peace. If
you’re married you know this well. There
is a give and take involved in marriage and our other relationships that allows
us to maintain a certain level of peace.
Imagine if one person always insisted their way all the time. This would destroy a relationship. There must be a willingness to surrender
one’s will and one’s rights for the sake of keeping peace in the relationship.
When Paul gives this
exhortation to live peaceably with all he is not being unrealistic. In fact he attaches two qualifications to
this command.
The first one is “If
possible…” Paul states here something we
all know to be true. It’s not always
possible to be at peace with everyone all the time. There are times when conflict cannot be
helped. For example there are times when
keeping peace in a relationship means that we must compromise the truth, our
faith, or our convictions. In these
moments peace must be sacrificed for what is right. Proverbs 27:6 says that “Faithful are the
wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” Here it is made clear that there are times
when peace must take a back seat to truth, even in friendship.
But let me be clear
that this must be done in love. We do
not sacrifice peace because we hate the one, who is against us, but rather we
sacrifice peace because we love what is true and right, we love the person, and
we understand that what is true and right is ultimately what is best for the
relationship.
The second
qualification for peace is in verse 18 “…so far as it depends on you…” Paul says if there is an absence of peace,
look at yourself first, making sure it is not due to your own wrong behavior or
actions. Am I guilty of sinning Paul was
very diligent in this are always making sure his conscience was clear in his
dealings with his enemies. We all can
identify with Paul’s words because we have been there in our
relationships. Whether it be our spouse,
our child, our parent, a co worker, a friend or whoever, there are times when
peace simply cannot be achieved despite the fact that you have done everything
possible to make peace. The other person
is unwilling. If your conscience is
clear and you have sought God and wise human counsel on the matter you simply
have to move on. Do not become desperate
and attempt to make peace while compromising what is true and right.
Next in verse 19
Paul shares what is to be our motivation for obeying verses 17-18; “Beloved,
never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written,
“Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”
The desire for
justice is a universal one. Everyone,
including unbelievers, wants to see good people rewarded good and bad people
punished. The idea of justice is
ingrained upon our very heart and soul and I believe this is the way God
intended it. It is in keeping with the
law that God has written on our hearts.
If there is law there must also be justice because justice by definition
is the administration of law. When God
placed the law upon man’s heart it was accompanied by the understanding that
there would be a penalty for violating that law, something we are all guilty
of. This of course, as we saw in chapter
2-3 was meant to point men to the law giver and the one whom we needed to make
peace with.
So law and justice
are important aspects of God’s revelation of Himself to mankind.The problem
arises however when this natural desire for justice becomes coupled with our
pride. When this happens we make it our
own personal mission to avenge the wrong or evil done to us. Scripture tells us however that no man has
the right to avenge himself. Why? Because the one who seeks vengeance must be
completely perfect and just. We must
also remember that only God has a perfect knowledge of the heart of the person
who has committed the evil or wrong.
Now does this mean
that there is no earthly authority able or allowed to carry out justice? Of course not. God has vested His authority to a single
earthly power and that is the government.
The government has the God given responsibility to administer justice on
earth. I know that may alarm or even
scare some but his is the way God has ordained it. We won’t get into this today because Paul
will address this specifically in chapter 13.
We seem to have this
idea in our heads that if someone wrongs us it is our duty and responsibility
to make sure the wrong is made right. We
think that if we don’t avenge the wrong that has been done against us it will
never be avenged. Justice is up to us.
God says, NO! There is only one who is just therefore there
is only One who has the right to avenge when a wrong has been committed, and
that One is Me! I know all, I see all, I
am aware of every wrong that has ever been committed against you and against me
and they will all be accounted for, every one of them. This is summed up in Paul’s quotation of
Deut. 32 where we read “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” God says “Every person on the face of the
earth will give an account to me! Every
wrong will be accounted for. Justice
will be served. Every evil deed a person
commits will be accounted for and punished.
Not a single one will escape the judgment and wrath of God. The sin and evil of every man woman and child
will be dealt with.
For believers, the
judgment and wrath of God has been poured out upon Jesus Christ who died in our
place, taking the full punishment for our sin and our evil sin upon Himself so
that we might go free.
The unbeliever
however will personally face the judgment and wrath of God for his sin and
evil. This is the wrath spoken of in
verse 18. This wrath is so terrible and
so unimaginable that no amount of harm we inflict out of our own personal
vengeance can compare to it.
What Paul is saying
here is this; “Don’t worry about seeking revenge. Don’t worry about making sure everyone gets
what is coming to them. That’s God’s
business.” To seek vengeance is to
attempt to usurp the authority of God Himself.
It is a profound lack of faith in the Word of God which says “God I know
what you said but I just don’t believe you will follow through so I am going to
make sure it gets done.”
Now I don’t know about
you but when someone wrongs me and I consider the words “Vengeance is mine, I
will repay, says the Lord” I feel a sense of pleasure.
Is Paul saying that
we are to take comfort in knowing that the one who has wronged me is going to
get what’s coming to him? Am I to find
comfort in this?
Notice verse 20 It
is as though Paul anticipates this kind of response so he redirects us when he
says “To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty,
give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his
head.”
Instead of seeking
to avenge yourself, instead of wishing the vengeance of God upon your enemy try
to win him. Do for your enemy what
Christ did for you! We should never take
comfort in the knowledge that the wrath and vengeance of God awaits our
enemies. Rather we should tremble at the
very thought of it. This is why Paul
does not simply stop at refraining from doing evil to our neighbors and goes a
step further by exhorting us to deliberately pour out kindness upon them. It is one thing to refrain from doing evil
and it is quite another to be proactive in doing good. Paul’s words here are a reflection of Jesus’
words in Matthew 7:12 “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do
also to them…”
Many have pointed
out that the Golden Rule is a universal moral ethic that Jesus simply borrowed
from earlier religious or philosophical thought. The Scriptures hold us to a much higher
standard however. Not only are we to
refrain from doing evil to others but we are to actively do good to them, even
our enemies. That’s a big
difference. Don’t simply do what is
expected but go even further. As Jesus
said “turn the other cheek, give him your cloak also, walk the extra
mile.” Seek to win your enemy over by
your response. Don’t simply withhold
vengeance from your enemy but “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is
thirsty, give him something to drink for…Paul says… by so doing you will heap
burning coals on his head.”
Paul is citing
Proverbs 25:21-22 here and there is a great deal of speculation as to what is
meant by heaping coals upon one’s head.
From my own study of the phrase and its context it seems as though Paul
is saying that rather than seeking to heap the burning coals of judgment upon
the head of our enemy we should seek to heap the burning coals of kindness upon
him. We are to do this in hopes that our
enemy would feel shame and guilt for his behavior and repent of it. The end goal is salvation. The best way to make your enemy your friend
is to make him your brother.
We must act in mercy
and love toward our enemies in the desire that they too would come to repent
and trust Jesus Christ as their Savior.
Mercy reminds me of what I, as an enemy of God, deserved and the fact
that God withheld it from me and this is my motivation to not seek
vengeance. Grace reminds me that I am no
more deserving of the kindness of God than my enemy yet God poured it out upon
me and this is my motivation to heap kindness upon my enemy.
Notice Paul’s
closing words at the end of chapter 12 “Do not be overcome by evil, but
overcome evil with good.” Do not respond
to evil with more evil lest you yourself be overcome by evil. When we respond to evil with evil, evil has
won the victory over us. We are now
operating on the side of evil. Evil
becomes our master and we play by its rules.
Paul says don’t fall for it. When
evil comes at you overcome it but not the way you’re thinking. If you are going to overcome evil you must
overcome it with good otherwise it will overcome you. If you allow evil to overcome you, you lose
the ability to dispense mercy and when you lose the ability to dispense mercy
you cannot reflect the grace and love of Jesus Christ to others whether friend
or enemy.
So what is the key
to overcoming evil with good? What is
our incentive? What is our
motivation? Turn with me to Luke 7:36-48
“One of the Pharisees asked him to eat with him, and he went into the
Pharisee’s house and took his place at the table. And behold, a woman of the city, who was a
sinner, when she learned that he was reclining at table in the Pharisee’s
house, brought an alabaster flask of ointment, and standing behind him at his
feet, weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears and wiped them with the
hair of her head and kissed his feet and anointed them with the ointment. Now when the Pharisee who had invited him saw
this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would have known who
and what sort of woman this is who is touching him, for she is a sinner.” And Jesus answering said to him, “Simon, I
have something to say to you.” And he answered, “Say it, Teacher.” “A certain moneylender had two debtors. One
owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. When they could not pay, he canceled the debt of both. Now which of them will love him more?” Simon
answered, “The one, I suppose, for whom he canceled the larger debt.” And he
said to him, “You have judged rightly.” Then turning toward the woman he said
to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water
for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her
hair. You gave me no kiss, but from the
time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. You did not anoint my head
with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. Therefore I tell you, her
sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven
little, loves little.”
The key to
overcoming evil with good is to always remember that we have been forgiven
much. This is why living in view of the
mercies of God is so critical, especially when it comes to our relationships. To live in view of God’s mercy is to never
forget how much we have been forgiven and if we never forget how much we have
been forgiven we will find it much easier to forgive others.
In closing this
morning Let’s listen to the story of Damare Garang from the Sudan.
Damare was captured
by Islamic soldiers when his Sudanese village was attacked. Only 7 at the time,
he was sold as a slave to a Muslim family. He became a camel boy even though he
knew nothing about caring for them. His master enforced his learning with
beatings. One day a camel got away. The master threatened to kill Damare for
this mistake, but something restrained him. The next day when he found out that
Damare had sneaked away to attend a Christian church in the village he became
determined to punish this boy.
The master found a
large board, several rusty spikes and a hammer and dragged Damare out to the
edge of his compound. He forced Damare’s legs over the board and drove the long
nails through his knees and feet. Then he turned and walked away, leaving the
boy laying in the field screaming from pain.
A man passing that
way heard Damare’s screams and sneaked into the compound and carried this boy
to the local hospital where the nails and board were removed. A year-and-a-half
later, Damare and the man who saved him were in a village that came under
attack, and they were separated. After the defense forces managed to drive away
the Islamic soldiers, Damare was left standing along. When the commander heard
him speak, he realized that he was from the Dinka Tribe and took him back to
their camp. After hearing his tragic story he tried to locate some of Damare’s
relatives. When none could be found, the commander adopted the former camel boy
and took him to his home.
Today Damare is 15
and lives in Mario Kong. He cannot run fast and play like the other boys, but
when asked how he feels about the man who did this to him he replied “I forgive
the man who did this to me. Jesus was
also nailed to a cross, and he forgave me.”
May we never forget
how much we have been forgiven. May we
never forget the great mercy of God.